Again I am writing about my Love Dare. I am on Day 3, but writing Day 2.
Yesterday I looked to see what my Day 2 was going to be (after writing 30+ I forgot what I had written).
Day 2: Hold your tongue. When you feel like criticizing him, keep it to yourself. Trying instead to think of positive thoughts regarding him.
I tried hard to do this. I was not perfect at it. But I am seeing that a more positive attitude is so much better. Of course since we were children we have been told this -- it is much harder than it sounds. To be positive and just not complain about what is not perfect is an act of faith. Faith in your spouse, faith in yourself, and faith in Heavenly Father knowing that, no matter what, he does care. It is easy to see the bad, ugly, and unwanted. It is so much more rewarding to see the great side of life. To look at your spouse and think, "Out of all the people on the planet right now, you chose me." That is such a blessing -- to share your life with someone and to feel loved.
I mentally had to change my thought processes. I again was not perfect, but I did see that my day can go much smoother and more productive if I have a positive attitude. I am happy and in turn my kids are much happier. So when Christian comes home he does not enter a war zone! Which is basically what has been happening lately with my little four year old. He has developed some bad habits or is in a phase, but either way it is frustrating and I have been unhelpful by reacting to it -- instead of acting.
My new found positive attitude filtered into today and it was even easier. Don't get me wrong, I still have my moments in the day where I am reprimanding myself for being critical and frustrated. But aloud I am doing much better! I still need to work on it ever day to ensure I do not fall back into bad habits. Hopefully someday it will be second nature. :) I can only hope!
I'll talk about my day 3 tomorrow. Until next time, I hope your days are wonderful!
